Things You Can Learn on a Slow News Day

For one thing, you can learn why it’s important for a woman to have sex with her husband even when “she’s not in the mood“:

It is an axiom of contemporary marital life that if a wife is not in the mood, she need not have sex with her husband. Here are some arguments why a woman who loves her husband might want to rethink this axiom.

First, women need to recognize how a man understands a wifes refusal to have sex with him: A husband knows that his wife loves him first and foremost by her willingness to give her body to him. This is rarely the case for women. Few women know their husband loves them because he gives her his body (the idea sounds almost funny). This is, therefore, usually a revelation to a woman. Many women think mens natures are similar to theirs, and this is so different from a womans nature, that few women know this about men unless told about it.

This is a major reason many husbands clam up. A man whose wife frequently denies him sex will first be hurt, then sad, then angry, then quiet. And most men will never tell their wives why they have become quiet and distant. They are afraid to tell their wives. They are often made to feel ashamed of their male sexual nature, and they are humiliated (indeed emasculated) by feeling that they are reduced to having to beg for sex.

When first told this about men, women generally react in one or more of five ways:

1. You have to be kidding. That certainly isnt my way of knowing if he loves me. There have to be deeper ways than sex for me to show my husband that I love him.

2. If this is true, men really are animals.

3. Not my man. He knows I love him by the kind and loving way I treat him.

4. You have it backwards. If he truly loved me, he wouldnt expect sex when Im not in the mood.

5. I know this and thats why I rarely say no to sex.

The author of this illuminating article (Dennis Prager) answers each of these possible reactions in turn, and at some length. To spare you the extra reading time, I will summarize:

1. You have to be kidding. That certainly isnt my way of knowing if he loves me. There have to be deeper ways than sex for me to show my husband that I love him.

There aren’t. This is the only way.

2. If this is true, men really are animals.

Bingo.

3. Not my man. He knows I love him by the kind and loving way I treat him.

If you were really kind, you would have sex with your husband when he wants it.

4. You have it backwards. If he truly loved me, he wouldnt expect sex when Im not in the mood.

Sure, there’s always the rare oddball exception to any rule.

5. I know this and thats why I rarely say no to sex.

Good girl!

There is, however, one question that always comes up (pun not intentional) when a husband wants sex and his wife doesn’t — and Prager does not mention it: Is it ever okay for a wife to fake her orgasm? I’m afraid the answer creates a conundrum — but maybe Prager can address that in Part II.

5 Responses to “Things You Can Learn on a Slow News Day”

  1. tas says:

    There’s some wingnuttery one reads, which comes out of nowhere, that’s just jaw dropping.

  2. tas says:

    I just thought of Denis Prager’s next advice column for women: “Rump Sex — The Natural Birth Control!”

  3. Dustin says:

    Just think: reverse the roles and you’ve got yourselves a classic Family Guy clip…

  4. Mark says:

    A simple rule of thumb – when looking for something to post about on a slow news day, always, ALWAYS go to a site affiliated with Hugh Hewitt.

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